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New Years Resolutions

December 29th 2006 01:03
Yes, New Years resolutions are cheesy and corny. Most of us spin some rubbish about getting fit, loosing weight, finding a better job, quiting smoking and generally commiting to a lifestyle of good behaviour. It seems a little rediculous that we even need to wait until we flip over the final page on our wall calendar to even prompt us to commit to making lifestyle changes. Why shouldn't we be able to just quit smoking today? Afterall Monday is just going to be another day.

But anyway, whilst it is the time of reflection and resolutions I think now is as good a time as any to delve into the field of relationship resolutions. Before the new year is out, have a look back on your relationship/s (or lack there of) over the past year. Are you happy with where you are at the moment? What parts of your relationship would you like to improve and how can you go about making sure that in the new year things will be even better.


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More tips for your personals advert

December 28th 2006 08:56
Yesterday I covered some common mistakes that people make on their personals adverts. Here are a few more things to consider.

1. Write with confidence

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Common mistakes made with online dating

December 27th 2006 12:16
These days you seldom meet a single person who never tried online dating, even if its just for a bit of curious fun. Its a pretty common way for busy people to meet other likemided singles and provided you play your cards right it can be a damn succussful way of getting to know a whole host of new friends or potential love interests.

Some people have the whole online dating thing down to a tee, others are a little more online personals challenged. These are a few common mistakes I've seen on online dating sites which are a guaranteed way of dropping your online dating success or attracting the wrong type of attention.

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Yesterday I looked at some of the indicators that may suggest that your relationship is progressing too fast and either you or your new love interest is getting falling in love far too fast. Here are some counter measures to help ease on the breaks and slow the relationship down a few notches before you or the partner get scared off.

1. Limit the amount of time together and also the amount of daily contact you share at the initial stages of a relationship. There is something to be said about the element of mystery which can play into the favour of a new relationship. Provided that you express your enjoyment of any contact spent together there is no need to equate hours spent together with how interested you are in the person.

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Office Christmas Parties Part Two

December 22nd 2006 00:05
I covered some of the basics for the office Christmas Party yesterday. Today I'll look at some more pointers and things to consider before you make your tentative steps into the corperate end of year hurrah.

The christmas party is reknown as a horror event. The possibilities for letting a little too much of your party/social lifestyle bleed into the responsible working lifestyle are all too apparent. Whilst you want to remain on guard, you don't want to be considered socially inept. Therefore it is necessary to at least take advantage of the free alcohol, socialise and build upon the relationships your firm has so far fostered. If you fit into the work social scene well, you will prosper in the workplace as a result of your bonding session gained at the company christmas party.

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The Dreaded Christmas Party

December 21st 2006 00:46
With Christmas around the corner and workplaces rife with end of year Staffies parties. Its reasonable to assume that for this time of year at some stage a fair portion of us will be drinking more than usual at completely inappropriate times.

Christmas parties are a cultural tradition in Australia within companies and businesses. Celebrating a successful year bonds employees, and within larger companies Chrismas parties help departments met and mingle with people in the same firm they might otherwise never interact with. They are supposed to be fun, frivololus, flirty, but not filthy.

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Why you should try speed dating

December 20th 2006 01:28
If you’re life is too busy for the convention meet and greet style of dating, or if you are fed up with wasting your time with online dating or finding people online, perhaps speed dating is a new route to try. Speed dating has been round for a few years and is just as successful and disastrous as other methods of meeting people. The only difference with speed dating is that it can take some time out of weeding through those that aren’t your match. Speed dating has the potential to condense a few weeks worth of dating into one afternoon. Rather than going on one date, you can go on several 5 minute mini dates.

Sure it’s not the ‘usual’ way of meeting people and just like online dating, it is easy to get the wrong impression about someone after a short, quick introduction. However, it does open up the floodgates to a world of possibilities. It is far easier to find people that you are possibly compatible with when you meet them in person rather than on an online chat or dating site. It is far easier to judge someone’s character in person and that remains one of the distinct disadvantages of online dating.

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Christmas gift purchasing pressure

December 19th 2006 01:39
When I was a kid as soon as December rolled round the days to Christmas used to drag on by. Christmas used to be fun. Of course there were the presents to look forward to but more than anything else, the chance to enjoy the long summers with the extended family, go camping and that nice lazy period between the final week leading up to Christmas and New Years Day was the perfect chance to recharge for the New Year. Now it seems Christmas is one big headache. Amid all the chaos with rounding up the year at the workplace, there’s masses of people, sales and kitsch junk at the retail outlets. I find the entire present purchasing custom completely stressful. In the midst of trying to decide what to get whom, there’s also the debate of if you should be buying a gift for someone at all.

If you’re dating someone new, I would say the best advice is to have an honest conversation with them. This way you’re not awkwardly caught off-guard when they surprise you with a gift and you’ve got nothing for them because you didn’t think you were exchanging gifts. It’s definitely a short conversation you need to have, but make it light and like it’s no big deal. Slip in the gift giving topic during general conversation. A good lead in to the new relationship Christmas present discussion is to ask if they want something during the festive period. A quick, “Hey, I’m finishing up my shopping this week and did you want something in particular for Christmas?” This will get their ideas. They will either say, “Nah, that’s ok.” Or “Oh, I’ve already got your gift.”

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Top Romantic Films

December 18th 2006 03:39
Last night I found myself snuggling up and having a Sunday movie night in with a couple friends. It's inspired me to go in search of the top romantic movies of all time as voted by the general public.

According to IMDb the top 10 rated romance titles ever produced are;

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Friends with Benefits

December 15th 2006 05:01
Friends with benefits, f**k buddies, convenient sex… call it what you will. There is definitely something to be said for the growing awareness of casual, no string attached relationships. Some might say that these promiscuous relationships have become popular over the past decade, I disagree. We’re all warm blooded creatures with sexual desire and have been that way since the dawn of time. The difference may be that society is more tolerant and embracing of our boudoir antics than ever before. Within TV shows, magazine articles and coffee shop gossip it is socially acceptable to divulge the gruesome details of our sexual conquests in all their embellished glory. In my opinion, that is the only difference between sexual relationships now and 100 years ago.

A friend with benefits is someone whose primary function is to provide sexual satisfaction. Sure they’re also probably someone who you can have great conversation with, share similar interests and have a degree of respect for. But all said and done, when you’re slightly tipsy on a Friday night, its their number who you text, “Wanna shag?” knowing that there’s a high probability of uncomplicated, no commitment sex to round out the night.

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Here are the next five common relationship mistakes made by women.

6. Being too co-dependent. Everyone needs their space from each other. When you’re in love with someone and all you want to do is spend hours together it can be hard to give others the space that they may need. Personal time spent away from a partner is a healthy part of any relationship. If you are worried that your partner is cheating or not interested in you there are clearly some trust and self esteem issues that may need to be worked out. Nevertheless, in the long term it is impractical to be tied to the hip with your partner. With time, a clingy partner will appear insecure, needy and high maintenance.

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Last week I gave the top ten most common relationship mistakes made by men. This week it is the women’s turn. Here are the top ten relationship mistakes made by women. As with last weeks list this post is going to be spread over two days. Five mistakes today, and five mistakes tomorrow.

1. Setting unrealistic expectations. Ask some women what they want in a man and they’ll rattle off a 10 minute breakdown of their ideal guy. Everything from looks, personality, interests, career, eye colour, body hair, education and more. The lists can be exhaustive. A very big problem with having these ideal models is that the likelihood of finding someone who meets your expectations and list of requirements is going to be near impossible. It’s important to identify the core things that you seek in a relationship and shed the unnecessary ideals. Not everyone can be built like a Greek god, be funny, charming and the life of the party. We’re all ordinary people, with our own individual flaws. It is far better to focus on the important attributes rather than being too rigid.

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Sometimes the best way to deal with an argument is to take some time out and have a good laugh at all the stupidity. When the chips are down, there's nothing like a bit of comparison to realise that your rocky relationship quibbles are not uncommon and you probably don't have it so bad. If you think your relationship is far from perfect, always remember that there is someone else out there that's got it far worse. I found this site Things My Girlfriend and I Have Argued About and thought it was teh perfect, light hearted tonic for anyone who has just gone through a bit of a blue with their significant other.

It was hilarious to read the squabbles of Mil and Margaret and the fact that people could actually disagree about cutting fruit. There's also the usual suspects. Disagreements over the TV remote control and domestic duties. Issues we can all relate to.

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When should you meet the parents?

December 11th 2006 00:37
Introducing your new partner to your family can be a nightmare. I’ve always gotten the sweaty palms and anxiety attacks. Then there’s that horrible car ride to the folks house. Its you and your partner in the front seats, the stiff silence only broken by the occasional parents points winning pointers,

“Don’t mention we’re that you’re moving in just yet… my father is a little conservative about those things.”

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This is the second part of the top 10 relationship mistakes made by men. The first 5 relationship mistakes can be found in the previous post.

6. No matter what your gender, no one likes being in a relationship with someone who is selfish. Assuming that the relationship revolves solely around your needs and desires is fast track to disaster. There needs to be balance and compromise in order to have a happy and successful union. This is not to say that you must follow the every whim of your partner, but don’t expect decisions and outcomes to always go your way. Furthermore, be accepting of compromise. There’s nothing worse than someone who imparts guilt simply because things don’t pan out exactly as they want.

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In my opinion, these are the some of the top and most common relationship mistakes made by men. I’ll cover the top five tips today and continue tomorrow with the concluding five tips. If you feel like adding your top relationship mistakes made by men, add a comment.

1. Not taking enough responsibility of yourself. I tend to think of this as a type of mummy’s boy syndrome. Always remember that your partner is not your mother. It is not her responsibility to wash your clothes, make your lunch, remind you of birthdays or assign you household chores. A man who can take some initiative in a relationship and with domestic duties is always a prize catch. Don’t wait to be asked to take out the trash, restock the bread and milk or reminded of an anniversary. Make sure you are investing as much into daily activities as your partner is.

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When it comes to conclusion of a first date or even a chance meeting, making sure that you’ve left a lasting impression is the trick to scoring a subsequent date. If you want success, you have to make sure that you’ve got appeal, spark and something different compared to all the other candidates in the crowd. One big mistake that singles will often make is to try to play it too safe on the initial encounter with a person that they’re interested in. It is far more important to project a part of your personality that is different to the rest. You want to separate yourself from the pack and demonstrate why you’re the best next date the object of your affections is likely to every have. This is a quick little conversational check list to see if you’re following the grain or stepping out from the crowd.

Conversation is one of the most important aspects of a date. It is one of the primary way that we communicate and is one of the more effective methods of expression. If you want success in the dating world, it is paramount that you’re a good conversationalist. No matter how drop dead sexy you may look, if you front with horrid conversational skills, your physical sexy appeal with fall by the wayside.

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15 Relationship Tips

December 5th 2006 00:54
Nice and simple today. These are a couple relationship tips that will help you maintain a happy, healthy and loving relationship with your partner.

1. Without quality time, your relationship will not survive. Carve out at least half an hour a night, and at least one day a month when you the two of you spend time exclusively together.

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Some rules for picking up women

December 1st 2006 00:56
If you fancy yourself as a bit of a player, or you just want to some tips for picking up women and improving your success read on. I’ve come up with 5 no-fail rules. There are a few things that many men seem to repeatedly do wrong when they try to pick up girls.


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