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CibbuanoSexual Attraction: What’s more stimulating, the Brains or the Brawn?
October 20th 2006 00:53
The media will always push the sexy buff bodies as the ultimate prize when it comes to sexual attraction, but is it necessarily a reflection of what we hunt for when it comes to sexual attraction? I’ll certainly admit that physical attraction plays a significant part in what I look for in a sexual partner. However, if someone can’t string together two coherent sentences, their sex appeal can plummet like Jordan and Peter Andre Disney duet. So to what extent does the brains component of attraction play in the hunt for a sexual partner? Is it a factor of greater importance than physique?
Take for example David Beckham, considered as one of the sexiest males in the football world. I’ll be the first to admit, he’s a fine specimen of a male… if only he could keep his mouth permanently sealed. My problem with Beckham is that as soon as he utters a mere fragment of some scattered thought process, he suddenly becomes as sexy as ugh… I donno… Michael Bolton. Despite his apparent lack of brains, it hasn’t done much to tarnish his enduring status of a footballing sex god in the public eye. People will snigger at his ridiculous voice, yet I doubt many females would pass up the opportunity to tap that Beckham ass.
There’s a host of public personalities that are apparently lacking in the brains department yet continue to make the hottest personalities lists. They’ve literally made a profession out of being drop dead sexy airheads… Paris *cough* Hilton.
There’s something incorrigibly appealing about someone who can make you laugh at the drop of a hat, challenge your values in a social discussion or create an artistic masterpiece. The ability to express your thoughts in a fluid and eloquent form, musically, poetically, visually or verbally, is downright hot. Is it enough to compensate for a lack of physical attraction? I’m not sure.
Considering the number of writers, poets and assorted artsy types that are on the Orble blogging network I won’t be surprised if the Brains wins out in this battle of the brains versus the brawn.
Remember, for the purposes of this debate we’re talking about sexual attraction, not a long term prospects kind of relationship. Doubt that anyone could spend a significant amount of time with someone that exhibits the personality of a house brick. There’s a clear difference between that initial firey sexual attraction that you feel when you first meet someone and the progression to looking for a sustainable long term commitment.
What does it for you? Do you go for the mental stimulators, someone that’s easy on the eye or a combination of both?
Take for example David Beckham, considered as one of the sexiest males in the football world. I’ll be the first to admit, he’s a fine specimen of a male… if only he could keep his mouth permanently sealed. My problem with Beckham is that as soon as he utters a mere fragment of some scattered thought process, he suddenly becomes as sexy as ugh… I donno… Michael Bolton. Despite his apparent lack of brains, it hasn’t done much to tarnish his enduring status of a footballing sex god in the public eye. People will snigger at his ridiculous voice, yet I doubt many females would pass up the opportunity to tap that Beckham ass.
There’s a host of public personalities that are apparently lacking in the brains department yet continue to make the hottest personalities lists. They’ve literally made a profession out of being drop dead sexy airheads… Paris *cough* Hilton.
There’s something incorrigibly appealing about someone who can make you laugh at the drop of a hat, challenge your values in a social discussion or create an artistic masterpiece. The ability to express your thoughts in a fluid and eloquent form, musically, poetically, visually or verbally, is downright hot. Is it enough to compensate for a lack of physical attraction? I’m not sure.
Considering the number of writers, poets and assorted artsy types that are on the Orble blogging network I won’t be surprised if the Brains wins out in this battle of the brains versus the brawn.
Remember, for the purposes of this debate we’re talking about sexual attraction, not a long term prospects kind of relationship. Doubt that anyone could spend a significant amount of time with someone that exhibits the personality of a house brick. There’s a clear difference between that initial firey sexual attraction that you feel when you first meet someone and the progression to looking for a sustainable long term commitment.
What does it for you? Do you go for the mental stimulators, someone that’s easy on the eye or a combination of both?
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Comment by ThomasM
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Brains attracts me more and I find my date / partner sexy with great conversations that will just make us forget about time and things around us.
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Perhaps I have found the twi-light zone
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No, except twi-light zone...
The "ting ting ting ting, ting ting ting ting..." music is running in my head and I can feel my hair standing...
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Comment by Jessicca
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I don't say that looks doesn't matter (or else the beauty world will crumble) it is just brains comes first before beauty these days for a long term relationship / spouse.
By the way, if anyone is lost with my comment of "ting ting ting ting, ting ting ting ting" I was referring to the Twilight Zone theme music
I also manage to find and extract information about this series if anyone never heard of the movie series
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I am not sure what you want me to explain as I was making a comment from my own personal feelings. Perhaps it is a difference that only women recognise. Let me ask you, what makes one woman, drop-dead gorgeous in your eyes, and another ugly?
L.
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Comment by JustVisiting
In fact, I have never seen a man as a "potential" until I have spoken to him. I am not attracted sexually until some witty word play or sincere conversation has taken place.
looks aren't meaningless, if i connected with a guy who was entirely repulsive to me, I would have to think twice. However, conversation is the hook, and looks are a bonus.
Comment by JustVisiting
I think what the girls are trying to say is that they can admire a man for his aesthetic qualities - but the sexual pull is not dependant firstly on looks. You can think someone is beautiful without there being anything sexual.
The sexual attraction comes from the way a witty conversation makes you feel. Exhilarated, and in your element, ready to tear anything apart, especially clothes.
Women are often described as being more turned on by what they hear, and how they feel when interacting with the "potential" (thus, many women like funny guys.) Whereas it's often put forward that men are visual creatures.
Does this seem right?
Comment by Anonymous
My ex bf was cute, but didn't have 2 brain cells to bash together. I remember being in the company of (intellectual) friends and I was messaging him, saying we were procrastinating. His response? "ok. what is procrastingating anyway?! Oh look, I spelt it!!" He then informed me that I had to stop using big words and things he didn't understand. Upon explaining that it meant i was putting something off etc, he just goes "WELL WHY CAN'T YOU JUST SAY THAT?!"
It was at that stage that I started to question any involvement in the relationship. That and the fact that he was always drunk, occassionally stoned, had the most revolting habits ever, and was mildly abusive (i think possibly bi-polar - he would have the worst rages ever!)
So, I guess my point is that while looks count for me, and they are certainly an initial factor and something that may entice me to want to see and spend more time with someone, brains would win out in the end.
Comment by KarenC
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I've upgraded my friends since then ...
I have a bit of warped sense of humour and if people get it, I'm completely there. So many people talk about how their perfect partner makes them laugh. Vitally important. Without dispute. But I want to make them laugh as well. If they don't get me, what's the point?
I think I made the point earlier that it's a two way street, although not in those exact words. My perfect man: dark eyes, dark skin, dark hair; intelligent, athletic. Isn't that everyone's perfect man? But on top of that, i want a man who makes me laugh; who I think is beautiful; who wants the same things in life that I want.
On the flipside, I want a man who thinks I'm beautiful; who laughs with me; who thinks that my end goals are worthwhile.
But for this blog and its point of short-term attraction? I'll take the brawn any day.
Comment by Anonymous
I'm attracted to someone I can relate to, and who i can have fun with over a long amount of time.
Have you also noticed that a large range of couples have a similar "image" of attraction, and when you get that odd couple that look very different to one another, you go WHAT THE?
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To assume or demand that someone's WRONG in either of those scenarios....makes you an insensitve ...here it comes...BLOKE....I think someone should open up a taste garden....ya know...different strokes...for ahh ...well you get the point.
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It's a place to put all your opinions...Somthing that is safe, yet very ..........got create some space here...VARIED in how it's approached. No rules other than...NO DOWNTALK AND NO FUCK U stuff....that's it...It could be fun and educational!
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It's a hoot
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i think i may have to plant one in Bohemians United, a blog for, well Bohemians lol...
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LOL
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[boh-hee-mee-uhn] a person, as an artist or writer, who lives and acts free of regard for conventional rules and practices.
i guess i shouldn't invite the Queen then, hey...
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Comment by Mike L.
Why is that?
For the continuation of the human race, of course. I guess I'm smart enough to go for both, and you'll see that in my fiance.
There's nothing wrong with raw sexual attraction, but if it's the only thing driving your pursuit, then consider it a warning sign, because you won't have enough gas to keep going soon enough, especially when the going gets rough in a relationship.
Relationship partners are like video games. Graphics (or looks) causes you to turn your head, but gameplay (personality and/or brains) is what keeps you playing.
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sorry Ruth, we got off topic...
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Indeed they do Dani, maybe the question should be, which stimulation lasts?
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Comment by Jessicca
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Wow... after MIA myself over the weekends I find that this is quite a long list of conversation to read upon. ^_^
This morning I just read this rather interesting article and I have posted on my blog site, wondering how you guys would have thought about it?
Is moving in together - a good idea?
Perhaps you guys wanna drop by there and take a look and of course, your comments is most welcome and cherished!
Cheerio!
Jessicca
p/s: I do agree with Dani's 'First impressions last', but sometimes, this first impression does apply to the character rather than the outlook. I believe it all depends on individual taste. Some would look at the appearance. If the first appearance doesn't even attract you to talk to the him/her, that would be a total lost too.
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I know that MIA feeling. I liked your moving in together post. Its a big step in amy relationship.