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CibbuanoForbidden Relationships – Friends Siblings
November 13th 2006 00:40
When it comes to dating just about anyone is fair game. Not to say that there aren’t a few boundaries that you probably shouldn’t cross. No matter how dead sexy or appealing someone may be, there are a few situations that you really ought to think twice about before jumping into a relationship with. At least recognize that if you choose to play with fire, it is bound to lead to an explosive situation somewhere down the track. Here are a few relationships that I would consider a bad idea at face value.
Your best friend’s sibling
Triple the points if you’re hoping to score with a younger sibling. In an ideal world dating your best friend’s sibling sounds like a brilliant idea. You’ll be friends forever, all go out together and life will be forever peachy. Unfortunately, in the real world, life ain’t so peachy and when things go pear-shaped you can loose anything from a great friend to a great lover and most likely both. Dave shares his experiences,
“A couple of years ago I had a 'thing' with the sister of one of my mates. This mate and I had been buddies for 3 years or so, and I'd met his sister shortly after meeting him. I'd always had a crush on her; in fact, I used to tease him about it, asking him when she was going to be single or break up with her current boyfriend. Well, it was all fun and games until one day she admits that she's interested in me too, which was both exciting and frustrating: on one hand, the girl I'd liked for several years had said she was interested, but on the other I knew she was my mate's sister.
So, before anything else happened I approached my mate and told him what was going on, since my first priority was not fucking up a good friendship. We talked about it, and he said that if anyone was dating her he's glad it's me, since he knows he can trust me and I'll treat her right. We then decide that if it gets weird and starts to affect our friendship it's my responsibility to break it off, and I told him to keep me informed on how he felt about the whole thing.
Now she and I 'went out' for a couple of months; I use the term loosely as we were treating it more as a trial thing while we waited to see if it would actually work, and not affect things between my mate and I. It was different to what I expected, but we were working out any awkwardness, and it didn't seem to be detrimental to the friendship, so things went on.
One night she tells me that 'we need to talk,' and I pretty much guessed exactly what she was going to tell me before we even sat down. She said it was too difficult dating one of her brother's friends, and she wanted to end it partly because of how she thought it was affecting him, and partly because of the way he was treating her because of it. It was then that I found out that he'd been treating her like shit the past couple of months behind my back, purposely putting her down and making her life hell because of her and I going out. Meanwhile, while this was going on, he kept telling me how cool he was with things! Turns out he wasn't happy, but instead of talking to me he decided to backstab me..
The next day I confronted him about it, and accused him of lying to me and sabotaging what could have been a great relationship. Of course he played dumb and accused her, but I knew what had happened. So, we fought it out, and I made the decision to end our friendship. It was a difficult thing to do as we'd had many great times together, but there was no trust between us anymore. To top it all of, he munched on a big bunch of sour grapes before telling me that 'we were never really friends anyway.' That was just the final straw. I haven't spoken to him since then.”
So what are your thoughts on dating a mate’s sibling? Is it a little to pseudo incestuous for comfort? Have you ever known a similar situation to have worked out in the long term? Have you ever considered dating a best friend’s sibling?
I'll cover some other forbidden relationships over the week.
Your best friend’s sibling
Triple the points if you’re hoping to score with a younger sibling. In an ideal world dating your best friend’s sibling sounds like a brilliant idea. You’ll be friends forever, all go out together and life will be forever peachy. Unfortunately, in the real world, life ain’t so peachy and when things go pear-shaped you can loose anything from a great friend to a great lover and most likely both. Dave shares his experiences,
“A couple of years ago I had a 'thing' with the sister of one of my mates. This mate and I had been buddies for 3 years or so, and I'd met his sister shortly after meeting him. I'd always had a crush on her; in fact, I used to tease him about it, asking him when she was going to be single or break up with her current boyfriend. Well, it was all fun and games until one day she admits that she's interested in me too, which was both exciting and frustrating: on one hand, the girl I'd liked for several years had said she was interested, but on the other I knew she was my mate's sister.
So, before anything else happened I approached my mate and told him what was going on, since my first priority was not fucking up a good friendship. We talked about it, and he said that if anyone was dating her he's glad it's me, since he knows he can trust me and I'll treat her right. We then decide that if it gets weird and starts to affect our friendship it's my responsibility to break it off, and I told him to keep me informed on how he felt about the whole thing.
Now she and I 'went out' for a couple of months; I use the term loosely as we were treating it more as a trial thing while we waited to see if it would actually work, and not affect things between my mate and I. It was different to what I expected, but we were working out any awkwardness, and it didn't seem to be detrimental to the friendship, so things went on.
One night she tells me that 'we need to talk,' and I pretty much guessed exactly what she was going to tell me before we even sat down. She said it was too difficult dating one of her brother's friends, and she wanted to end it partly because of how she thought it was affecting him, and partly because of the way he was treating her because of it. It was then that I found out that he'd been treating her like shit the past couple of months behind my back, purposely putting her down and making her life hell because of her and I going out. Meanwhile, while this was going on, he kept telling me how cool he was with things! Turns out he wasn't happy, but instead of talking to me he decided to backstab me..
The next day I confronted him about it, and accused him of lying to me and sabotaging what could have been a great relationship. Of course he played dumb and accused her, but I knew what had happened. So, we fought it out, and I made the decision to end our friendship. It was a difficult thing to do as we'd had many great times together, but there was no trust between us anymore. To top it all of, he munched on a big bunch of sour grapes before telling me that 'we were never really friends anyway.' That was just the final straw. I haven't spoken to him since then.”
So what are your thoughts on dating a mate’s sibling? Is it a little to pseudo incestuous for comfort? Have you ever known a similar situation to have worked out in the long term? Have you ever considered dating a best friend’s sibling?
I'll cover some other forbidden relationships over the week.
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