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CibbuanoForbidden Relationships – Flatmates and Housemates
November 14th 2006 01:31
Sometimes living with people you don’t have any emotional attachment to (whether it be friendship or something more) can make life a whole lot easier on the domestic front. When it comes to the everyday matter of living, keeping a level rational head can be the make or break factor that determines how smoothly your daily at home lifestyle runs. Some will argue that there is this unwritten law of nature that prevents men and women who interacting frequently and casually from forming some sort of sexual attraction. I don’t necessarily believe that it’s the whole truth, but I have definitely witnessed a whole lot of relationships that have blossomed out of share accommodation. One week they’re a housemate, the next it is a roommate.
The conundrum is that shagging your housemate can lead to all sorts of trouble. The big factor is of course that you have to live together and are generally bonded for a significant amount of time by the lease. So if things go sour quickly there is going to be a whole lot of nastiness going on in the domestic front. Don’t be surprised to come home and find your room has been ransacked, groceries adultered and personal possessions pawned. There is much to be said on the sanity of a jilted lover.
In my opinion, the major problem is that there seems to be a clash of expectations in mixed gender housemate situation. Let’s face it, if you’re going to share a house with someone of the opposite gender, I can guarantee that at some time your at least going to think about sleeping with them. Even if it is to completely toss the idea off as absurd, the point is that it is a thought that will cross just about every mind.
There are also those that seem to think that casual sex is a rite of passage when house sharing with someone of the opposite sex. But there’s an ocean of difference between casual sex and a relationship. This will usually be where things breakdown. One party will morph the situation into a full blown relationship, the other will treat it as casual sex. Add a few strategic events to incite a bit of jealousy and suddenly it is game on. Someone is left feeling cold, used, cheap and locked into associating on a daily basis with someone who they feel has just “fucked them over.”
The conundrum is that shagging your housemate can lead to all sorts of trouble. The big factor is of course that you have to live together and are generally bonded for a significant amount of time by the lease. So if things go sour quickly there is going to be a whole lot of nastiness going on in the domestic front. Don’t be surprised to come home and find your room has been ransacked, groceries adultered and personal possessions pawned. There is much to be said on the sanity of a jilted lover.
In my opinion, the major problem is that there seems to be a clash of expectations in mixed gender housemate situation. Let’s face it, if you’re going to share a house with someone of the opposite gender, I can guarantee that at some time your at least going to think about sleeping with them. Even if it is to completely toss the idea off as absurd, the point is that it is a thought that will cross just about every mind.
There are also those that seem to think that casual sex is a rite of passage when house sharing with someone of the opposite sex. But there’s an ocean of difference between casual sex and a relationship. This will usually be where things breakdown. One party will morph the situation into a full blown relationship, the other will treat it as casual sex. Add a few strategic events to incite a bit of jealousy and suddenly it is game on. Someone is left feeling cold, used, cheap and locked into associating on a daily basis with someone who they feel has just “fucked them over.”
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