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CibbuanoWhen a friendship turns into a relationship
October 30th 2006 01:25
In theory it would seem that a best friend would make the perfect relationship partner. But like a lot of things in life, what sounds good on paper isn’t necessarily good in practical life. The biggest risk of upgrading from a friendship to a relationship is the potential to lose a really good friend.
Usually I found it easier to strike up a relationship with someone I’ve just meet. The person is a fresh face in your life, you don’t have too many preconceived ideas about them and if things don’t workout, there’s not too many preconceived ideas about what they’re like as a person and if things don’t workout, its not such a big lose.
The transition from friendship to relationship is a hell of a lot harder. Some couples have struck it lucky and managed to make a smooth transition but there is definitely some sort of awkwardness in the initial stages. I tend to get very close with my best friends and will share just about every embarrassing and deepest darkest secret with them. I’ve come to regard my tightest friends as family, the boys are like older brothers, the girls are soul sisters. So the idea of kissing, making out with or screwing any of my best friends strikes me as being incestuous.
Not that I haven’t had crushes on my friends. It was mostly concentrated around my hormonal teenage years but certainly I would have had a crush on just about all of my close male friends at some stage during high school. In retrospect I’m very glad nothing did happen with any of these crushes. Whilst as an adult I’d like to think that a short high school relationship would not have destroyed a longstanding friendship I think it could have had some sort of impact. There certainly a few high school relationships that resulted in long term resentment when they went sour.
Taking a friendship to the next level is a two way street. It’s only going to work if both have some sort of interest in following a relationship. When there’s just a one way crush, it’s a train wreck waiting to happen. If you’ve got a crush and you’re not certain if your bestie feels the same way, it is definitely worth your while to take it slow and wait for signs that they’re interested in something more.
Morphing a friendship into a relationship is a double edged sword. There’s a lot at stake, but then again, if you never give it a go, you’ll never know what out may have missed out on.
What are your experiences with dating best friends? Did it work out? What are your thoughts?
Usually I found it easier to strike up a relationship with someone I’ve just meet. The person is a fresh face in your life, you don’t have too many preconceived ideas about them and if things don’t workout, there’s not too many preconceived ideas about what they’re like as a person and if things don’t workout, its not such a big lose.
The transition from friendship to relationship is a hell of a lot harder. Some couples have struck it lucky and managed to make a smooth transition but there is definitely some sort of awkwardness in the initial stages. I tend to get very close with my best friends and will share just about every embarrassing and deepest darkest secret with them. I’ve come to regard my tightest friends as family, the boys are like older brothers, the girls are soul sisters. So the idea of kissing, making out with or screwing any of my best friends strikes me as being incestuous.
Not that I haven’t had crushes on my friends. It was mostly concentrated around my hormonal teenage years but certainly I would have had a crush on just about all of my close male friends at some stage during high school. In retrospect I’m very glad nothing did happen with any of these crushes. Whilst as an adult I’d like to think that a short high school relationship would not have destroyed a longstanding friendship I think it could have had some sort of impact. There certainly a few high school relationships that resulted in long term resentment when they went sour.
Taking a friendship to the next level is a two way street. It’s only going to work if both have some sort of interest in following a relationship. When there’s just a one way crush, it’s a train wreck waiting to happen. If you’ve got a crush and you’re not certain if your bestie feels the same way, it is definitely worth your while to take it slow and wait for signs that they’re interested in something more.
Morphing a friendship into a relationship is a double edged sword. There’s a lot at stake, but then again, if you never give it a go, you’ll never know what out may have missed out on.
What are your experiences with dating best friends? Did it work out? What are your thoughts?
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