Harry
CibbuanoFriends with Benefits
December 15th 2006 05:01
Friends with benefits, f**k buddies, convenient sex… call it what you will. There is definitely something to be said for the growing awareness of casual, no string attached relationships. Some might say that these promiscuous relationships have become popular over the past decade, I disagree. We’re all warm blooded creatures with sexual desire and have been that way since the dawn of time. The difference may be that society is more tolerant and embracing of our boudoir antics than ever before. Within TV shows, magazine articles and coffee shop gossip it is socially acceptable to divulge the gruesome details of our sexual conquests in all their embellished glory. In my opinion, that is the only difference between sexual relationships now and 100 years ago.
A friend with benefits is someone whose primary function is to provide sexual satisfaction. Sure they’re also probably someone who you can have great conversation with, share similar interests and have a degree of respect for. But all said and done, when you’re slightly tipsy on a Friday night, its their number who you text, “Wanna shag?” knowing that there’s a high probability of uncomplicated, no commitment sex to round out the night.
On paper a friend with benefits is a brilliant scheme. It takes all the hard work out of scoring a one night stand, it is perhaps a safer option and there aren’t any tricky emotionally awkward situations to deal with. From the outset the terms are understood and mutually agreed. Friends with benefits scheme offer different terms and conditions, I suggest you shop around and read the fine print carefully before you commit to something that isn’t necessarily right for you.
Despite any connotations with prostitution, promiscuity and sinful relationships, I don’t think there is necessarily anything wrong with having a friend with benefits. However, I do think that involves a certain level of emotional maturity. It isn’t necessarily right for everyone. Where I see the friends with benefits system fail is where people who are looking for a relationship, but can’t find one decide to settle on developing a friends with benefits relationship. Whatever the motive, to fill the sexual gap until a relationship arrives, loneliness or the hope that the relationship with turn into true love, if you are looking for more than just sex, steer clear of a f**k buddy relationship. If you are clear that all you want during a given period of your life is simply, no strings attached sex; then by all means a friend with benefits is the perfect solution.
A friend with benefits is someone whose primary function is to provide sexual satisfaction. Sure they’re also probably someone who you can have great conversation with, share similar interests and have a degree of respect for. But all said and done, when you’re slightly tipsy on a Friday night, its their number who you text, “Wanna shag?” knowing that there’s a high probability of uncomplicated, no commitment sex to round out the night.
On paper a friend with benefits is a brilliant scheme. It takes all the hard work out of scoring a one night stand, it is perhaps a safer option and there aren’t any tricky emotionally awkward situations to deal with. From the outset the terms are understood and mutually agreed. Friends with benefits scheme offer different terms and conditions, I suggest you shop around and read the fine print carefully before you commit to something that isn’t necessarily right for you.
Despite any connotations with prostitution, promiscuity and sinful relationships, I don’t think there is necessarily anything wrong with having a friend with benefits. However, I do think that involves a certain level of emotional maturity. It isn’t necessarily right for everyone. Where I see the friends with benefits system fail is where people who are looking for a relationship, but can’t find one decide to settle on developing a friends with benefits relationship. Whatever the motive, to fill the sexual gap until a relationship arrives, loneliness or the hope that the relationship with turn into true love, if you are looking for more than just sex, steer clear of a f**k buddy relationship. If you are clear that all you want during a given period of your life is simply, no strings attached sex; then by all means a friend with benefits is the perfect solution.
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Comment by Red Terror
Do you have a "f**k buddy"? Do you even know people who do?
Puhleeeese. Why would anyone pay any heed to your advise or suggestions based on this mindless drivel?
I am so impressed at how relentlessly stupid these three paragraphs were, that I am actually inspired to read the rest of your posts simply in the hope that they get worse.
Really.
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There are always other ways to fill a lonely heart.
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Comment by Monty
Casual sex has always been around. The thing is that with a "Friend" you are more likely to know where they have been, if they are safe, and what they get pleasure from. People now are more open about their desires. As such it is more likely that people will discuss them, and find someone with similar desires. It seems only right that two people with the same feelings about sex could have a relationship that is just sex, but still maintain a friendship.
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