Harry
CibbuanoHow to read a personal ad
September 5th 2006 00:20
Half the ordeal of finding a partner through personal adverts is sorting out the mumbo from the jumbo. There is this prevalence in the personals world where people feel the need to embellish their qualities. Heaven forbid a personal advert features a regular Joe, with a regular job with a couple regular interests. Admittedly, the personals adverts are there to promote the date seeker so embellishment is to be expected. I guess a little exaggeration is to be expected, but when people flat out lie they’re just wasting everybody’s time. Personally I don’t understand the point of lying on a personals ad. It s a very short sighted tactic for attracting some initial attention, but once the dirty little secret is out of the bag I doubt anyone would be interested in further contact. You’ve labeled yourself as untrustworthy from the start.
One of the most common lies you’ll find in the personals arena is the old knocking off a few years trick. Let’s face it, no one wants to be 40 and desperate. But if that is what you are, god damn, deal with it and embrace it. If you can’t accept and respect who you are, what hope do you have of finding someone who will accept and respect yourself. Lying about age is as common among men’s personals as it is among the women’s. This isn’t a gender specific problem. For some reason posting a classifieds after a certain age just seems to be social taboo. Not to say this is a middle age plus related problem. There are plenty of classifieds posters who seem to be celebrating their 5th 24th birthday.
So now it comes down to determining who is and isn’t lying about their age. A lot of online classifieds adverts will require their members to post up a photo. One sure indicator that a person might be hiding something is if they try to be cute by printing a photograph of their cat or their baby picture. Also watch out for photographs that appear to be out of focus or look as if they’ve been tampered with. Some people will intentional choose a bad photo to post of themselves. The lighting may be poor, over exposure, they’re standing well away from the shot or there will be several people in the shot so you’ll never know which one is the poster. These are further indications that someone is trying to hide something about their identity. It really doesn’t make any sense for someone to post a bad photo of themselves when the whole idea of a classifieds is to promote themselves in the best possible way.
One of the most common lies you’ll find in the personals arena is the old knocking off a few years trick. Let’s face it, no one wants to be 40 and desperate. But if that is what you are, god damn, deal with it and embrace it. If you can’t accept and respect who you are, what hope do you have of finding someone who will accept and respect yourself. Lying about age is as common among men’s personals as it is among the women’s. This isn’t a gender specific problem. For some reason posting a classifieds after a certain age just seems to be social taboo. Not to say this is a middle age plus related problem. There are plenty of classifieds posters who seem to be celebrating their 5th 24th birthday.
So now it comes down to determining who is and isn’t lying about their age. A lot of online classifieds adverts will require their members to post up a photo. One sure indicator that a person might be hiding something is if they try to be cute by printing a photograph of their cat or their baby picture. Also watch out for photographs that appear to be out of focus or look as if they’ve been tampered with. Some people will intentional choose a bad photo to post of themselves. The lighting may be poor, over exposure, they’re standing well away from the shot or there will be several people in the shot so you’ll never know which one is the poster. These are further indications that someone is trying to hide something about their identity. It really doesn’t make any sense for someone to post a bad photo of themselves when the whole idea of a classifieds is to promote themselves in the best possible way.
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Comment by Anonymous
Occaisionally there is a bit of leeway, a maximum of 5 years, but it's a very real effect I've observed.