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CibbuanoTop Ten Relationship Mistakes Made by Men
December 7th 2006 05:11
In my opinion, these are the some of the top and most common relationship mistakes made by men. I’ll cover the top five tips today and continue tomorrow with the concluding five tips. If you feel like adding your top relationship mistakes made by men, add a comment.
1. Not taking enough responsibility of yourself. I tend to think of this as a type of mummy’s boy syndrome. Always remember that your partner is not your mother. It is not her responsibility to wash your clothes, make your lunch, remind you of birthdays or assign you household chores. A man who can take some initiative in a relationship and with domestic duties is always a prize catch. Don’t wait to be asked to take out the trash, restock the bread and milk or reminded of an anniversary. Make sure you are investing as much into daily activities as your partner is.
2. Housework is not just for women. You can learn how to do laundry, vacuum the house and wash the dishes even if you haven't had to do it in the past. Don’t stereotype roles in a relationship, it should be an equal partnership.
3. Being emotional open isn’t perceived as being particularly masculine, but if you want a relationship to last in the long term it is very important that you communicate your feelings to your partner. Don’t just assume that she knows you love her, tell her and show her. Don’t just wait for her to initiate some romantic conversation. She’ll really appreciate it if you spontaneously let her know just how much you do care about her.
4. Not resolving conflicts. It’s not unusual to have a heated argument and disagree, with your partner. The real killer to a relationship is not coming to some sort of resolution or agreement on the conflict. No one likes to argue with their partners and sometimes the best way of dealing with a situation is to simply remove yourself from the situation and let tempers cool for awhile. Nevertheless, it is essential that some sort of mitigation is achieved eventually. If you make a habit of storming out of a disagreement and not coming to some sort of a resolution down the track you’re inviting a lot of bad blood and animosity into the relationship. No matter what the topic, it is important to work through any disagreements and come to some sort of civilized middle ground. Someone who regularly avoids conflict and compromise will appear weak and gutless.
5. Being a bad listener and not providing emotional support. When you’re in a relationship, a partner is supposed to be your primary confidant and pillar of support. When the chips are down, when you’ve had a bad day or when something really horrible happens, the first people that you turn to for support are your family and partner. No matter if you agree with your partners ideas, it is very important to listen and absorb whatever it is that they’re discussing with you. Being a good listener and absorbing what someone is saying is a way of showing your respect for someone’s intellect. Never brush off conversations that you have with your partner or avert your attention during conversation. There is nothing more frustrating than talking to someone who isn’t listening to what you have to say. If you want to say in the good books, be a available ear for your partner.
1. Not taking enough responsibility of yourself. I tend to think of this as a type of mummy’s boy syndrome. Always remember that your partner is not your mother. It is not her responsibility to wash your clothes, make your lunch, remind you of birthdays or assign you household chores. A man who can take some initiative in a relationship and with domestic duties is always a prize catch. Don’t wait to be asked to take out the trash, restock the bread and milk or reminded of an anniversary. Make sure you are investing as much into daily activities as your partner is.
2. Housework is not just for women. You can learn how to do laundry, vacuum the house and wash the dishes even if you haven't had to do it in the past. Don’t stereotype roles in a relationship, it should be an equal partnership.
3. Being emotional open isn’t perceived as being particularly masculine, but if you want a relationship to last in the long term it is very important that you communicate your feelings to your partner. Don’t just assume that she knows you love her, tell her and show her. Don’t just wait for her to initiate some romantic conversation. She’ll really appreciate it if you spontaneously let her know just how much you do care about her.
4. Not resolving conflicts. It’s not unusual to have a heated argument and disagree, with your partner. The real killer to a relationship is not coming to some sort of resolution or agreement on the conflict. No one likes to argue with their partners and sometimes the best way of dealing with a situation is to simply remove yourself from the situation and let tempers cool for awhile. Nevertheless, it is essential that some sort of mitigation is achieved eventually. If you make a habit of storming out of a disagreement and not coming to some sort of a resolution down the track you’re inviting a lot of bad blood and animosity into the relationship. No matter what the topic, it is important to work through any disagreements and come to some sort of civilized middle ground. Someone who regularly avoids conflict and compromise will appear weak and gutless.
5. Being a bad listener and not providing emotional support. When you’re in a relationship, a partner is supposed to be your primary confidant and pillar of support. When the chips are down, when you’ve had a bad day or when something really horrible happens, the first people that you turn to for support are your family and partner. No matter if you agree with your partners ideas, it is very important to listen and absorb whatever it is that they’re discussing with you. Being a good listener and absorbing what someone is saying is a way of showing your respect for someone’s intellect. Never brush off conversations that you have with your partner or avert your attention during conversation. There is nothing more frustrating than talking to someone who isn’t listening to what you have to say. If you want to say in the good books, be a available ear for your partner.
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