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Tash Jayasinghe
CibbuanoMatchmaking
September 22nd 2006 02:58
There are some people that habitually fall for the completely wrong type of partner. I think most people have a friend who has this systematic problem. You’ll see them bounce from one incompatible relationship to the next. No sooner do they introduce you to their new squeeze you’re already counting down the days to that phone call announcing the split. The problem with these types of serial incompatible relationship people is that the qualities that they look for in a partner is out of sync with the qualities that they need from a partner. With younger adults I find that a lot of people will place too much emphasis on material things. How much money someone’s earning… what they look like… what social group they’re into. Young adults are quick to fall in love with an image rather than the true self.
Then there are also those that have an adamant definition of what they want in a partner. There is this long list defining to the last eyelash what they want in a partner when in reality no one is every going to match up to these parameters. Everyone has their flaws, it is a matter of finding what you absolutely must have from a partner and what qualities you are willing to compromise on.
A lot of the time people can’t actually see if a potential date has any lasting power. Maybe they don’t learn from the previous failed relationships. Maybe it’s some complex psychological factor that will draw them repeatedly to the same character. Usually they just need a little push in the right direction to break the cycle.
I never gave matchmaking much regard. However, the more I think about it, the more I think it has its merits. The decisive factor is that you are using a relatively impartial source to judge your character and compatibility with a perfect match. I reckon my friends probably know me better than I know myself. I’d be happy to trust their judgment when it comes to dating. When I have had relationships that have soured my friends had usually noted the problem well before it ever became an issue.
Not everyone friends with a ready supply of perfect bachelors and bachelorettes. And I can understand why some people prefer not to match their friends up. However, if you are one of these serial failed relationship types that is always falling for the wrong type of guy/gal, if you can’t trust yourself with finding a date on an online dating site, there is hope yet. There are plenty of professional matchmaking services that will hook you up with someone who is deemed compatible. Sure a third party service won’t know you as well as your best friends, but if you fill out your questionnaire honestly the chances of getting a match should be far better.
I think of the matchmaking service as another way of finding a relationship. Online dating, speed dating, matchmaking, the bar and club scene, there’s bound to be a method that will bring anyone success.
Then there are also those that have an adamant definition of what they want in a partner. There is this long list defining to the last eyelash what they want in a partner when in reality no one is every going to match up to these parameters. Everyone has their flaws, it is a matter of finding what you absolutely must have from a partner and what qualities you are willing to compromise on.
A lot of the time people can’t actually see if a potential date has any lasting power. Maybe they don’t learn from the previous failed relationships. Maybe it’s some complex psychological factor that will draw them repeatedly to the same character. Usually they just need a little push in the right direction to break the cycle.
I never gave matchmaking much regard. However, the more I think about it, the more I think it has its merits. The decisive factor is that you are using a relatively impartial source to judge your character and compatibility with a perfect match. I reckon my friends probably know me better than I know myself. I’d be happy to trust their judgment when it comes to dating. When I have had relationships that have soured my friends had usually noted the problem well before it ever became an issue.
Not everyone friends with a ready supply of perfect bachelors and bachelorettes. And I can understand why some people prefer not to match their friends up. However, if you are one of these serial failed relationship types that is always falling for the wrong type of guy/gal, if you can’t trust yourself with finding a date on an online dating site, there is hope yet. There are plenty of professional matchmaking services that will hook you up with someone who is deemed compatible. Sure a third party service won’t know you as well as your best friends, but if you fill out your questionnaire honestly the chances of getting a match should be far better.
I think of the matchmaking service as another way of finding a relationship. Online dating, speed dating, matchmaking, the bar and club scene, there’s bound to be a method that will bring anyone success.
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