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Online Dating Safety Advice - Final Thoughts

May 25th 2006 02:11

If the idea of a first date surrounded by friends is a little too much, but you still want the security of a caring person in the vicinity try recruiting a couple friends as private eyes. If you choose to meet up at a café, get a couple friends to have a coffee at the same coffee shop around the same time. You don’t need to acknowledge eachother or sit next to eachother, it’s just a safety precaution to have some trustworthy people making sure your first date goes smoothly and safely. Having some spying friends about for a date in a bar or club may help you relax and be more comfortable. Of course you could have a friend casually drop by you meeting spot for a coincidental meeting to make sure you are where you are supposed to be and subtly make sure the date is going ok.

Finally, good luck with your first date. It takes a lot of courage to get out onto the dating scene and meet up with someone for the first time. Keep an open mind, but remain rational and a little skeptical. Everyone has the potential to be deceptive. Use the time to assess how genuine your date is. Look out for behavioural traits that may be worrisome. Things like aggressive or inappropriate behaviour or demeaning comments are warning signs of things to come. Make sure that information that has been provided by your date in online conversations is consistent with information that they provide in person. Go with your gut feelings. If something doesn’t feel right, go with your instincts. Get friends and family to meet your date early on in the relationship to help you assess their character. It can be difficult to see the negative side of someone when you’re consumed by a crush.

In summary, the key points for safe internet dating are;

- Be aware of how much information you give out about yourself. People are not always honest and it can be easy to lull into a false sense of security with someone you may have been chatting online with for some time. Until it gets serious and you’ve meet the person on multiple occasions don’t be giving out specific details about where you live, work, your full name or any personal information.

- Be mindful of where you choose to meet someone for the first time. Choose a location which is public and frequented by other people. Minimise your personal risk by avoiding places like bars and late evening, night meet ups.

- Always ensure a trusted friend or relative has details of who, where and expected timeframe of any date you go on with someone you have meet online.

- Have an independent means of transport to and from the date.

- Recruit some friends to help out with your first meet up.

- Take it slow and have a good dash of skepticism until you really get to know the person on the other end of your internet chats. You can still be polite and sociable, but be realistic. Like any single scene, not everyone you meet is going to be the partner of your dreams.

Online Dating Safety Advice - Final Thoughts

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