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CibbuanoTips for Relationship Rut Resolution
February 8th 2007 00:44
Tips for Relationship Rut Resolution
1. Make sure both of you are in a sound state of mind. Basically don’t be springing up this sort of conversation after a few drinks or right after a stressful day at work. Relationship troubles are a sensitive topic so it pays to make sure that you are both cool, calm, collected and rational.
2. Embrace the issue with sensitivity. Your partner may not be aware that you are having issues with the relationship. Explain your thoughts with empathy. It isn’t a matter of blaming or finger pointing. Tell your partner that you are bringing up these issues with them because you want to come to a resolution together, get over these hurdles and grow together as a couple.
3. Try not to blame either yourself or your partner. The emphasis of a relationship rut conversation should not be about fault and blame. Explain what you think the problem is and quickly divert the conversation to ways of coming to some sort of a solution as a couple.
4. If the conversation is turning nasty, take a raincheck, remain calm and at all costs do not embark on a heated argument. Suggest that it would be better to continue the discussion at a different time.
5. Make sure you are clear with what you want to say to your partner before you start your discussion. There is potential for this sort of conversation to cause a lot of tension in your relationship so it pays to invest in some preparation time. Have clear in your head how you want to embrace the topics you want to discuss. Run through those first few lines to make sure you don’t completely gaff the situation with some ill preparation.
6. Avoid ridicule or nasty, sharp comments. Explaining to your partner what you think may be going wrong in your relationship is bound to leave them feeling hurt, sensitive and possibly defensive. Harsh comments are bound to turn what could be a constructive discussion into a slagging match.
7. Remember that two way discussion is very important. Let your partner express their thoughts. Absorb their views. It may be that your perspective on certain issues are skewed and a simple explanation may allay your fears.
8. Chose an appropriate place to hold this discussion. It is not appropriate to spring a serious relationship conversation in front of friends or relatives. If possible keep these sort of discussions to secluded locations.
1. Make sure both of you are in a sound state of mind. Basically don’t be springing up this sort of conversation after a few drinks or right after a stressful day at work. Relationship troubles are a sensitive topic so it pays to make sure that you are both cool, calm, collected and rational.
2. Embrace the issue with sensitivity. Your partner may not be aware that you are having issues with the relationship. Explain your thoughts with empathy. It isn’t a matter of blaming or finger pointing. Tell your partner that you are bringing up these issues with them because you want to come to a resolution together, get over these hurdles and grow together as a couple.
3. Try not to blame either yourself or your partner. The emphasis of a relationship rut conversation should not be about fault and blame. Explain what you think the problem is and quickly divert the conversation to ways of coming to some sort of a solution as a couple.
4. If the conversation is turning nasty, take a raincheck, remain calm and at all costs do not embark on a heated argument. Suggest that it would be better to continue the discussion at a different time.
5. Make sure you are clear with what you want to say to your partner before you start your discussion. There is potential for this sort of conversation to cause a lot of tension in your relationship so it pays to invest in some preparation time. Have clear in your head how you want to embrace the topics you want to discuss. Run through those first few lines to make sure you don’t completely gaff the situation with some ill preparation.
6. Avoid ridicule or nasty, sharp comments. Explaining to your partner what you think may be going wrong in your relationship is bound to leave them feeling hurt, sensitive and possibly defensive. Harsh comments are bound to turn what could be a constructive discussion into a slagging match.
7. Remember that two way discussion is very important. Let your partner express their thoughts. Absorb their views. It may be that your perspective on certain issues are skewed and a simple explanation may allay your fears.
8. Chose an appropriate place to hold this discussion. It is not appropriate to spring a serious relationship conversation in front of friends or relatives. If possible keep these sort of discussions to secluded locations.
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