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CibbuanoStuck in a Relationship Rut Part II
February 9th 2007 00:46
Step Two: Resolution
Before you confront your partner about the problems that you see in your relationship, it helps if you can come up with a few ways of solving the problems. That why when you do bring up these issues with your partner you can place the emphasis on the resolution rather than harping on the problems. One important step in coming up with a resolution is finding ways that you and your partner can work together to solve the relationship problems. It shouldn’t be simply a matter of your partner needing to change their habits/attitude/behaviour. If the resolution is simply just about your partner needing to make changes then it would only be natural that your partner would feel like you were placing the blame of the relationship failures completely on them.
If you decided to talk to a close friend or relative about your relationship issues be sure to listen to their input. They may be able to put a different perspective on the way that things are progressing. Ask for their advice on ways that you can find a way to come up with a resolution.
Discuss things that you can your partner can do together to get things back on track with you. Use the problems and the steps towards resolution as a way of building your relationship by working together to fix things. In this sense, it is important to make sure that you don’t bring in an element of blame. It shouldn’t be just about one person having to change to get the relationship working again. Getting through a relationship rut together is a great opportunity to strengthen the ties between you. Now more than ever you need each others support and input.
Encouragement can go along way. Carefully construct the way that you address your partner and their progress towards fixing the relationship. Appreciate any effort they make to help find a resolution. Tell them how important and how much it means to you that they have taken on board what you have expressed and the effort they are making to make the union right. The fact that they are making a conscious effort to help re-build the relationship speaks volumes about they feel about you.
Professional advice may be a good option if you feel unsure about how to embrace relationship ruts with your partner. Relationships Australia is a great resource for anyone who is tongue tied when it comes to bring up these issues or can’t come up with a resolution.
Before you confront your partner about the problems that you see in your relationship, it helps if you can come up with a few ways of solving the problems. That why when you do bring up these issues with your partner you can place the emphasis on the resolution rather than harping on the problems. One important step in coming up with a resolution is finding ways that you and your partner can work together to solve the relationship problems. It shouldn’t be simply a matter of your partner needing to change their habits/attitude/behaviour. If the resolution is simply just about your partner needing to make changes then it would only be natural that your partner would feel like you were placing the blame of the relationship failures completely on them.
If you decided to talk to a close friend or relative about your relationship issues be sure to listen to their input. They may be able to put a different perspective on the way that things are progressing. Ask for their advice on ways that you can find a way to come up with a resolution.
Discuss things that you can your partner can do together to get things back on track with you. Use the problems and the steps towards resolution as a way of building your relationship by working together to fix things. In this sense, it is important to make sure that you don’t bring in an element of blame. It shouldn’t be just about one person having to change to get the relationship working again. Getting through a relationship rut together is a great opportunity to strengthen the ties between you. Now more than ever you need each others support and input.
Encouragement can go along way. Carefully construct the way that you address your partner and their progress towards fixing the relationship. Appreciate any effort they make to help find a resolution. Tell them how important and how much it means to you that they have taken on board what you have expressed and the effort they are making to make the union right. The fact that they are making a conscious effort to help re-build the relationship speaks volumes about they feel about you.
Professional advice may be a good option if you feel unsure about how to embrace relationship ruts with your partner. Relationships Australia is a great resource for anyone who is tongue tied when it comes to bring up these issues or can’t come up with a resolution.
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