Harry
CibbuanoWhen the Hanky Gets Spanky
June 1st 2006 01:11
Yesterday I took a bit of an introduction into office based relationships. They can be associated with danger and on a rational level are probably not the best form of relationship to get involved with. But, lets face it, the danger and excitement are what makes them so good. There are a few things negative aspects to bear in mind when you start mixing co-workers with bedding buddies.
Before things get too serious, also be aware that things can turn horribly bad. For whatever reason, the relationship may not work out. In a normal relationship, it is very easy to spit the dummy and declare that you never want to see your ex-significant other ever again. In an office relationship, that’s only really true until the Monday morning meeting. An office relationship that goes sour can be a really awkward situation and its bound to raise some eyebrows amongst the co-workers when you are suddenly observed staring daggers at each other from opposite ends of the room. A nice bust up would be mutual and civil. Whilst I’m no relationship expert, I’ve yet to encounter any civil, mutual, warm and fuzzy break ups. An important part of breaking up is getting some space and distance between you and your ex, in an office situation that is not going to be possible. If it is really bad, accept the fact that you may have to change jobs or be moved to another department.
On the other hand, if things become serious between you, letting the rest of the workforce know about the extracurricular activities is going to have to happen at some stage down the track - preferably before any exchange of vows. The best course of action is to privately tell your superiors what’s been going on before spilling the beans to the rest of the crew. Managers can get narky if they’re not the first to find out any news. Its something to do with their control freak personalities and misplaced ideas of grandeur. Nevertheless, holding a little ‘tete a tete’ with the big cheese’s is less likely to vindicate either or both of you for a sacking. Ask for their advice on to how to handle the situation. Explain you both intend in seeing each other out of work hours. Your boss will give you the nod if it’s ok to spread the word or keep the role play up. They might suggest either find another job or one be moved to a different department. The finale is totally unpredictable and I can only suggest that you prepare for a worst case scenario and both be prepared with alternate job options if need be.
So there we have it, the comprehensive guide to shagging a work mate. That said, there’s nothing quite like experience, so I ought to elaborate on my foray into the Dark Side of company policy. Its a tale I'll leave for tomorrow.
Before things get too serious, also be aware that things can turn horribly bad. For whatever reason, the relationship may not work out. In a normal relationship, it is very easy to spit the dummy and declare that you never want to see your ex-significant other ever again. In an office relationship, that’s only really true until the Monday morning meeting. An office relationship that goes sour can be a really awkward situation and its bound to raise some eyebrows amongst the co-workers when you are suddenly observed staring daggers at each other from opposite ends of the room. A nice bust up would be mutual and civil. Whilst I’m no relationship expert, I’ve yet to encounter any civil, mutual, warm and fuzzy break ups. An important part of breaking up is getting some space and distance between you and your ex, in an office situation that is not going to be possible. If it is really bad, accept the fact that you may have to change jobs or be moved to another department.
On the other hand, if things become serious between you, letting the rest of the workforce know about the extracurricular activities is going to have to happen at some stage down the track - preferably before any exchange of vows. The best course of action is to privately tell your superiors what’s been going on before spilling the beans to the rest of the crew. Managers can get narky if they’re not the first to find out any news. Its something to do with their control freak personalities and misplaced ideas of grandeur. Nevertheless, holding a little ‘tete a tete’ with the big cheese’s is less likely to vindicate either or both of you for a sacking. Ask for their advice on to how to handle the situation. Explain you both intend in seeing each other out of work hours. Your boss will give you the nod if it’s ok to spread the word or keep the role play up. They might suggest either find another job or one be moved to a different department. The finale is totally unpredictable and I can only suggest that you prepare for a worst case scenario and both be prepared with alternate job options if need be.
So there we have it, the comprehensive guide to shagging a work mate. That said, there’s nothing quite like experience, so I ought to elaborate on my foray into the Dark Side of company policy. Its a tale I'll leave for tomorrow.
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