Harry
CibbuanoWhy are Women Attracted to Bad Guys?
August 14th 2006 00:33
Why is it that the best looking girls always seem to fall for the bad, asshole guys? It is rather perplexing and I must admit to falling victim to the bad boy syndrome. The question is why. What makes an asshole attractive? I think there are a couple factors which weigh into the puzzle.
For starters, bad guys are confident. They know what they are about, they know what they want and don't really care what others think. They are their own men and don't need others to prop them up. They’re assertive and tend to be no nonsense characters. Confidence is always attractive. Even self-absorbed vain types will have a throng of girls casting themselves at the mercy of an inflated ego.
Another factor is interest. Bad guys are interesting, they do interesting things. They have strayed from the straight-and-narrow and are a law unto themselves. They do what they want. They go where they will and they answer to no one. They are interesting. Tow the line, do as you are told and you are dull. Everyone seeks a little adventure and the prospect of a relationship with a ‘rebel without a cause’ is exciting since it promises spontaneity.
Dating a bad guy can be fun. It really is an emotional roller coaster ride and when you’re at the peak of the ride there is nothing more thrilling than getting up to some bad boy-esque antics. But for every thrilling experience in a bad boy relationship there are just as many horrible times and experiences. I guess the thing that keep women coming back is the promise of more exhilaration. There’s always the hope that a bad guy can be tamed whilst maintaining his fun, interesting streak.
Furthermore, bad guys are a challenge and we all love a challenge. Women love a challenge. If something is a challenge the end results must surely be worthwhile. The girls who go after a bad guy want to keep them to themselves and will do a great deal to keep hold. The more you want them, the greater there is a chance they may walk away.
Maybe that is why relationships with bad guys tend to be so explosive. There is a constant struggle to tame the wild guy and it seems his natural instinct is to push any form of commitment aside. The tighter you clinch the faster he’ll run through your hands. The thought of winning over a bad guy is a satisfying experience. It is a chance to succeed in the ultimate relationship challenge. The appeal of winning over a bad guy can be greater than the danger of loosing a bad guy.
For starters, bad guys are confident. They know what they are about, they know what they want and don't really care what others think. They are their own men and don't need others to prop them up. They’re assertive and tend to be no nonsense characters. Confidence is always attractive. Even self-absorbed vain types will have a throng of girls casting themselves at the mercy of an inflated ego.
Another factor is interest. Bad guys are interesting, they do interesting things. They have strayed from the straight-and-narrow and are a law unto themselves. They do what they want. They go where they will and they answer to no one. They are interesting. Tow the line, do as you are told and you are dull. Everyone seeks a little adventure and the prospect of a relationship with a ‘rebel without a cause’ is exciting since it promises spontaneity.
Dating a bad guy can be fun. It really is an emotional roller coaster ride and when you’re at the peak of the ride there is nothing more thrilling than getting up to some bad boy-esque antics. But for every thrilling experience in a bad boy relationship there are just as many horrible times and experiences. I guess the thing that keep women coming back is the promise of more exhilaration. There’s always the hope that a bad guy can be tamed whilst maintaining his fun, interesting streak.
Furthermore, bad guys are a challenge and we all love a challenge. Women love a challenge. If something is a challenge the end results must surely be worthwhile. The girls who go after a bad guy want to keep them to themselves and will do a great deal to keep hold. The more you want them, the greater there is a chance they may walk away.
Maybe that is why relationships with bad guys tend to be so explosive. There is a constant struggle to tame the wild guy and it seems his natural instinct is to push any form of commitment aside. The tighter you clinch the faster he’ll run through your hands. The thought of winning over a bad guy is a satisfying experience. It is a chance to succeed in the ultimate relationship challenge. The appeal of winning over a bad guy can be greater than the danger of loosing a bad guy.
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Comment by Anonymous
Comment by Anonymous
The fact is if a guy is going to be completely nice to you at the cost of himself, then there's nothing to be gained by being more than a friend with him. Because as a friend, he's going to be just as nice.
You need something more there, like good looks, or confidence, or so-called "bad boy antics" to make the guy interesting and hence date-worthy.
I think the factors you've listed Ruth are essentially correct - extrapolating them to "women like to be controlled" like anonymous did is still questionable though.