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CibbuanoTop Ten Relationship Mistakes Made by Women
December 13th 2006 01:13
Last week I gave the top ten most common relationship mistakes made by men. This week it is the women’s turn. Here are the top ten relationship mistakes made by women. As with last weeks list this post is going to be spread over two days. Five mistakes today, and five mistakes tomorrow.
1. Setting unrealistic expectations. Ask some women what they want in a man and they’ll rattle off a 10 minute breakdown of their ideal guy. Everything from looks, personality, interests, career, eye colour, body hair, education and more. The lists can be exhaustive. A very big problem with having these ideal models is that the likelihood of finding someone who meets your expectations and list of requirements is going to be near impossible. It’s important to identify the core things that you seek in a relationship and shed the unnecessary ideals. Not everyone can be built like a Greek god, be funny, charming and the life of the party. We’re all ordinary people, with our own individual flaws. It is far better to focus on the important attributes rather than being too rigid.
2. Not being yourself. If you feel that you don’t measure up to the expectations of your partner, it can be very tempting to play the superwoman role and pretend that you’re someone you’re not. Be aware of the way you behave, dress, interact and communicate when you are both with and away from your partner. Be true to yourself and make sure that you are not selling yourself short by being something that you’re not.
3. Lying. Big lies or small lies, there’s no better way of screwing up the true foundation of a relationship – trust. Avoid lies and maintain and honest, open relationship. It will always pay off in the long term.
4. Asking for too much too soon. Many men are scared of commitment, many women are too eager to look for commitment. When you’re starting out on a new relationship it is very important to let time run its course and not get too ahead of yourself. A few dates and you may have visions of marriage and children. That doesn’t necessarily he’s thinking the same thing. Be rational, make sure you get to know your partner before you start expecting lifelong plans together.
5. Busting out the L word too soon. Much like expecting a new relationship to blossom into long term bliss, busting out the “I Love You’s” too soon can be a real relationship killer. Again it is something that twinges on the commitment triggers of a male. If you truly love someone then by all means let them know, but be aware of the timing. Let a bit of affection and intimacy develop between the both of you before jumping in with the love word. Furthermore, make sure that you do mean what you are saying. Is it heady lust, initial giddiness? Are you really in love?
1. Setting unrealistic expectations. Ask some women what they want in a man and they’ll rattle off a 10 minute breakdown of their ideal guy. Everything from looks, personality, interests, career, eye colour, body hair, education and more. The lists can be exhaustive. A very big problem with having these ideal models is that the likelihood of finding someone who meets your expectations and list of requirements is going to be near impossible. It’s important to identify the core things that you seek in a relationship and shed the unnecessary ideals. Not everyone can be built like a Greek god, be funny, charming and the life of the party. We’re all ordinary people, with our own individual flaws. It is far better to focus on the important attributes rather than being too rigid.
2. Not being yourself. If you feel that you don’t measure up to the expectations of your partner, it can be very tempting to play the superwoman role and pretend that you’re someone you’re not. Be aware of the way you behave, dress, interact and communicate when you are both with and away from your partner. Be true to yourself and make sure that you are not selling yourself short by being something that you’re not.
3. Lying. Big lies or small lies, there’s no better way of screwing up the true foundation of a relationship – trust. Avoid lies and maintain and honest, open relationship. It will always pay off in the long term.
5. Busting out the L word too soon. Much like expecting a new relationship to blossom into long term bliss, busting out the “I Love You’s” too soon can be a real relationship killer. Again it is something that twinges on the commitment triggers of a male. If you truly love someone then by all means let them know, but be aware of the timing. Let a bit of affection and intimacy develop between the both of you before jumping in with the love word. Furthermore, make sure that you do mean what you are saying. Is it heady lust, initial giddiness? Are you really in love?
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Comment by KylieW
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Great post. So true too!
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